The picture below inspired me to write today's post.  The most reported issue there is with clients I've worked with is fear.  Interestingly, however, it's the last obstacle reported.   It feels like a circle, at times.  People will become excited about the possibilities and they will be so driven and so passionate about going after their dreams that they start to see the changes happening in their lives.  Once this happens, many people slow down on going after their dreams.  We go through the same questions:

  • Why do you think things have slowed down?
  • What can we do to continue on the same path we were on?
  • Are you happy with this current pace?

Usually I get a tentative 'yes' when asking if they are happy with this current pace.  As we continue on the same line of questioning, client's will usually start to come up with all the reasons why their dreams will not come to fruition.  We can easily talk through each scenario and come up with a back-up plan for any obstacles that are encountered, but the real issue that finally comes up is fear.  The big F.  What happens to all of us is that it's not fear of our dreams not coming true.  It's fear of them being realized!  While I believe that F.E.A.R. can absolutely mean 'False Evidence Appearing Real', I believe it could also mean 'Finally Everything Appears Right".  It's not that we're afraid of our dreams not coming true, it's that we're afraid they will and then what?  Today, let's spend some time really thinking about our lives if our dreams did come true.   Let's think about how we'll feel peace, contentment and a sense of accomplishment.  Let's imagine that happiness and let's use that as motivation to overcome F.E.A.R. and make our dreams a reality.

Karen Becker is an author, speaker and personal growth coach.  She has a Master's Degree in Counseling and applies these skills when coaching clients.  She has years of experience coaching clients in all areas of life: parenting, co-parenting after divorce and in personal growth/wellness.  She can be reached at

Kaern Becker, MA Life Coach