"Forgive others, not because they deserve it, but because you deserve peace." ~Jonathan Lockwood Hule.  Who here hasn't felt bitterness, anger and resentment towards someone.  Maybe it's someone in your past, maybe it's someone in your present.  If you're like most people, you know exactly who I'm talking about when I mention that anger and bitterness. 

Do you feel the weight of that anger?  Not only does it not feel great mentally, it doesn't feel great physically to hold onto that resentment.  How great would it be if you could let those feelings go?  I'm not saying you should forget why they may be upsetting you, but I'm offering a chance to move on without that feeling of being held down by the bitterness towards the situation and/or towards the person involved.  

There are a few tips to help you let go.  I like to have client's write down all the reasons they are feeling the negativity on paper.  Now is your turn. Once you write them down, take that paper and start ripping it up.  As you're ripping it up, repeat the following affirmation. 

"I have let go of the anger and resentment I felt in the past.  I no longer carry this bitterness with me.  I have let it go." 

Say it 10 times while you rip up that paper.  You should start to feel lighter.  If you don't, continue repeating the affirmation until it really sinks into your soul.  If you aren't feeling better after this, you can make this exercise more realistic by writing your thoughts on rocks.  Put these rocks in a bag and carry it with you everyday, literally.  Feel the weight of this anger and bitterness as you carry it with you.  Let one rock go everyday while you repeat the affirmation 10 times.  Once you've let all the rocks go, you will feel lighter physically and your soul will feel lighter, as well. 

There are many quotes that I've used to motivate others to move forward, but we can't move forward if we haven't let go of the past.  You can't start a new chapter in life if you're still reading the last.  Today is the day to let go of the negativity of the past and build your best life.

Karen Becker is an author, speaker and personal growth coach.  She has a Master's Degree in Counseling and applies these skills when coaching clients.  She has years of experience coaching clients in all areas of life: parenting, co-parenting after divorce and in personal growth/wellness.  She can be reached at karen_becker@outlook.com.

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Kaern Becker, MA Life Coach