There was a story on Facebook last week that several of my friends were passing around.  I'm sorry if I get some of the details wrong in this.  I don't know if this story is true or not, but I'm going to choose to believe that it is.  Basically, there was a little girl who was given flowers for her birthday.  Rather than keep those flowers, she decided to give them to strangers she thought needed them.  There were stories of tears when they were given a flower, lots of hugs and plenty of people who said this girl restored their faith in humanity and turned their day around.  All this from being given a flower.  This story touched me and I'm sure a lot of other people.  There were a two main items that came to mind when I read this.

First, we are in an age where it's becoming popular to do random acts of kindness.  I love this idea.  I've seen envelopes on vending machines that pay for a snack, post-it notes stuck to car windows telling someone to have a good day, repairs or groceries paid for, etc.  How fantastic that rather than ignoring those we pass on the street, we hear so many stories that include a random act of kindness.  Reportedly, this little girl had the best birthday.  It wasn't because of other presents she may have received, it was because of the gifts of happiness she gave others. 

Second, all it took was a flower from a little girl to make these people happy.  In an age where we're looking for the biggest house, fastest car, most amount of toys and have the largest debt; it was something as small as a flower to make people so happy, they were moved to tears. 

There are 3 simple rules to happiness: give more (time, love, smiles, etc.) and buy less items, smile more often even if you're faking it and choose your mood.  The things you buy won't make you happy, eventually you won't have to fake a smile and practice on choosing to find the good in situations. 

Karen Becker is an author, speaker and personal growth coach.  She has a Master's Degree in Counseling and applies these skills when coaching clients.  She has years of experience coaching clients in all areas of life: parenting, co-parenting after divorce and in personal growth/wellness.  She can be reached at

Kaern Becker, MA Life Coach