"I can handle them."
"Every parent has gone through something like this, right?"
This is what a lot of parents say, but many of them are secretly feeling something different. Many are wondering, "Is what they're saying right?" "Am I a bad parent?"
You joke to your friends, families and co-workers secretly looking for validation that you are doing something right.
You're tired, frustrated, and feeling defeated at some point many days.
I can tell you that you are likely doing things right. I can tell you that what others say has more to do with them than with you, but you'll probably keep wondering. They're probably looking for the same validation.
Why do we do this to ourselves? We read blog posts where someone says you're doing things right and we turn around and read another that says you're doing things wrong.
The truth is, no one knows your situation better than you do. No one can tell you that you're doing things right or wrong from a blog post. They can tell you what works best for a lot of people. They can tell you what research says works. They can repeat what they've heard, but unless someone knows your family, you'll always wonder.
Stop wondering. Find your confidence. You've gotten this far by doing things that work for your family.
If that's not enough to show you that things are going pretty well, consider looking at the parenting courses may help give you the confidence you need. The courses will help you find where things aren't working as well as see where things are working! If a course doesn't look right, that's OK, we can work together one-on-one to bring back your confidence so you aren't wondering anymore.
When you talk to your friends and family, it shouldn't be to look for validation. It should be to tell them a funny story about something your child did. It should be to tell them how well your children are listening.
Not only will your friends and family notice a difference, but your children will, too. I love the quote below. How much better of a parent are we when we have our confidence back?
Karen Becker is an author, speaker and family coach. She has a Master's Degree in Counseling and applies these skills when coaching clients. She has years of experience coaching clients in all areas of life: parenting, co-parenting after divorce and in personal growth/wellness. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.