That's an oxymoron isn't it? No one talks in text anymore, it's all symbols and acronyms. The average teenager sends over 3,000 texts/month and uses their phone more than 4 hours/day. My daughter's play this game on their iDevices called "Guess the emoji" which involves guessing what message a series of emoticons is trying to get across (it's hard). I have an 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em' philosophy on this because I want to be able to communicate with my teens and I also want to know what they're saying when they're communicating with their friends. With that said, I pulled my 14-year old daughter into the room for this one and she gave me some text lingo and the meanings, below:
- LOL Laughing out loud
- ROFL Rolling on the floor laughing
- IDEK I don't even know
- IKR I know, right?
- GTG Got to go
- 2 Used in place of 'to', 2nite, 2morrow, etc.
- gr8 Great
- PIR Parent in room
- l8r Later
- SYL See you later
- Sick Very cool
- Epic(ness) Extremely cool
- Boss Awesome
- Grody Gross
- Cuz/bc Because
- Tho Though
- bck Back
- 🗿 Used for basically everything, awkward lull in a conversation? 🗿 Unsure how to respond? 🗿 Want to drive your Mom crazy because she has no idea what these are for? 🗿
- Sometimes letters are added instead of removed. Wassssuuuuupppppp, Moooooooommmmmmmmm, etc.
Texting isn't just for conversation aymore either. You can now play connect four. Personally, I've wondered how someone can possibly send 1287 texts in a month with school. See below for reference.
While this is fascinating and fun, as a parent coach, I do think it's important to know what our children are saying to each other. If we can't communicate like them, how can we communicate with them? As much as I disagree with speaking like this in normal everyday life, and believe me I've heard it, it's how our teens are communicating with each other, at least in writing.
What is some lingo you've learned? Comment below, even with emoji's; we'll do our best to figure it out, but if we can't, we'll pull in the teens...
Karen Becker is an author, speaker and personal growth coach. She has a Master's Degree in Counseling and applies these skills when coaching clients. She has years of experience coaching clients in all areas of life: parenting, co-parenting after divorce and in personal growth/wellness. She can be reached at email@example.com.
The only way to REALLY know what's happening in your children's lives is to keep communication open. How do you do that? What if your children are older? I can tell you there is always time! This video and tip sheet can help.